In a myraid of ways she tries to change him or improve him. She thinks her attempts to. Change him are loving, but he feels controlled, manipulated, rejected and unloved. He will stubbornly reject her because he feels she’s rejecting him. When a woman tries to change a man, he is not getting the loving trust and acceptance he actually needs to change and grow.
When I ask a room filled with hundreds of women and men they all have had the same experience : the more a woman tries to change a man, the more he resists.
The problem is that when a man resists her attempts to improve him, she misinterpreted his response. She mistakingly thinks he is not willing to change, probably because he does not love her enough.
The truth is, however, that he is resistant to changing because he believes he is not being loved enough. When a man feels loved, trusted, accepted, appreciated and so forth, automatically he begins to change, grow and improve.
Inspired to write this by John Gray.